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Safety Planning

Your safety and the safety of your loved ones is a priority.

A safety plan is a personalized plan to stay safe while in a relationship, preparing to leave, leaving, and after leaving an abuser.

If you are in an abusive relationship it is important to have a plan in place to keep you safe–whether you are staying in the same location as the abuser or you choose to leave.

Safety Tips

  • During an Explosive/Abusive Incident

    Below are a few steps that you, your loved ones and others can take in an attempt to stay safe during an explosive/abusive incident:

    Position yourself and any others at risk of harm in a room with an exit – a window or door leading outside
    Avoid the bathroom, kitchen or any other room that may contain weapons or hard surfaces
    Try to get to a room that has a phone or, if you can, take your cell phone with you
    Identify a safe route to leave your home and practice the route at a time that does not put you at risk – if you cannot physically practice the route, visualize it often
    Identify where you will go if you leave and how you will get there
    Pack a bag with Checklist (link to Checklist) items and keep it at the home of a trusted friend or family member
    Use your instincts – if the situation becomes dangerous consider doing whatever is necessary to reduce your risks
    Tell your children to never get involved in an argument between you and your abuser
    Teach your children how to call 9-1-1 and create a simple 9-1-1 code word that lets them know when to call

  • Safety in Your Home

    Once the abuser is no longer in the home or with you, there are a few things you can do to increase your safety:

    Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible
    Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows
    Add outside security lighting
    Request a new, unlisted number
    If you have moved, never tell your abuser where you live – advise others to do the same
    Discuss a safety plan with your children – inform them where to go and what to do if the abuser shows up
    Alert your neighbors, landlord, neighborhood watch program, employer, and anyone else whom you feel might be helpful, that your abuser does not live with you and if they see him/her they should call local law enforcement
    Call the police if the abuser threatens you, your children, other loved ones or acquaintances or your home
    Tell your children’s school, daycare, etc., who does and does not have permission to pick them up
    Screen your calls and allow them to go to voicemail

  • Safety in Your Workplace

    It is not uncommon for abusers to show up at your workplace. These preventive measures may keep you and others in your workplace safe:

    Inform your supervisor of your situation – alert security officers as well and provide them a picture of your abuser
    Don’t go to lunch alone
    If possible, screen your calls and allow them to go to voicemail
    Park your car in a well lit, visible area
    Have someone escort you to your car or other form of transportation
    If possible, lock the office if you are alone
    Use a variety of routes to and from work

  • Safety in Public

    When in public there are several preventive steps one can in an attempt to stay safe:

    Go to different stores, businesses and financial institutions – if that is not possible, change the time of day or day of the week that you frequent them
    Use a variety of routes when traveling to and from home
    Whenever possible, have someone escort you to your car
    Park close to the entrance and in a well-lit, visible area
    Remain aware of your surroundings
    Identify ‘safe places’ where you can go if something happens while you are out
    Get rides from different trusted friends, neighbors and coworkers

  • Safety When Preparing to Leave

    Leaving an abuse can be a very dangerous time. It is important to exercise safety when preparing to leave an abuser – below are a few steps to help:

    Open a savings account in your own name to establish or increase your independence – ensure your statement is sent to a safe email or physical address
    Obtain a post office box using a safe permanent physical address
    If you have pets, make arrangements for them to be cared for in a safe place
    Pack a bag with Checklist (link to Checklist) items and keep it at the home of a trusted friend or family member
    Determine who would be able to let you stay with them and/or help you financially
    Keep the hotline number, 1-800-897-LINK (5465), with you at all times – if possible, get a cell phone
    Review your safety plan often
    If you use a computer or other electronic device to learn more about leaving, be sure to exercise Internet safety

  • Safety with a Protective Order

    Protective orders are intended to protect victims of abuse but they do not guarantee safety. These tips are designed to keep you safe if you have a protective order:

    Keep a copy of your protective order with you at all times
    Make copies of your protective order and give them to your employer, coworkers, family, friends, neighbors, teachers, church officials and others involved in your life
    Keep a copy of your protective order in your car
    If possible, immediately contact law enforcement if the protective order is violated
    Identify alternative ways to stay safe if law enforcement does not respond immediately
    Document any violations of the protective order – include names of anyone involved, the time, place, if law enforcement responded and any other information you feel might be important
    Additional information about protective orders, stalking injunctions and other legal matters may be obtained by contacting the local Legal Services office.

Safety Planning Checklist

Gather these items and documents, or copies of them, and keep them at the home of a trusted friend, family member or other safe place:

☐ Driver License or State ID
☐ Birth Certificate(s)
☐ Social Security Card(s)

☐ Money – cash and any credit cards in your name
☐ Checking and savings account information
☐ Loan/investment information

Legal Papers:
☐ Protective order
☐ Car title, registration and insurance
☐ House deed or lease/rental agreement
☐ Health/life insurance information
☐ Medical records
☐ School records
☐ Work permit/Permanent Resident Card/Visa/Passport/ITIN/Matricula Consular
☐ Divorce and/or custody papers
☐ Marriage license
☐ Tax return from previous year

Other Items:
☐ Medications, glasses, hearing aids and any other medically necessary items
☐ Additional house and car keys
☐ Safety deposit box key
☐ Valuable jewelry
☐ Address book
☐ Change of clothes 
☐ Current pictures of you, your abuser and your children
☐ Vaccination/immunization information
☐ Camera
☐ Appointment book/calendar

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Path to Safety

For additional safety planning tips and information, call the free and confidential, 24-hour, statewide Utah Domestic Violence Hotline:

1-800-897-LINK (5465)

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.

Our Impact in 2020

January 1-December 31
  • The Allstate Foundation grant helps us create safety and security for domestic violence survivors through financial empowerment.

  • At Amethyst Center for Healing we are dedicated to helping individuals, families, and communities recover from trauma and abuse, so that we may all live peaceful, empowered lives.

  • Canyon Creek Services provides free and confidential services for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault in Iron, Beaver and Garfield Counties.

  • CAPSA is a non-profit domestic violence, sexual abuse, and rape recovery center serving Cache County and the Bear Lake area.

  • The DOVE Center is the only area agency providing safe-shelter, crisis intervention, and prevention for clients who have been victimized by violence in their home – whether by a family member or cohabitant – that also serves victims of rape and sexual assault.

  • Founded in 1922, Legal Aid Society of Salt Lake is a non-profit organization that promotes safety, stability and self-sufficiency for low income families and individuals, as well as victims of domestic violence, through effective, efficient legal advocacy and assistance.

  • New Hope Crisis Center has been serving Box Elder County for 30 years. Our mission is to provide all-inclusive, integrated, victim-centered services to stabilize and support individuals, families, and our community.

  • Our organization advocates for victims of domestic violence, rape and sexual assault, and the homeless. Serving people in Sevier, Piute, Millard, Sanpete and Wayne counties of Utah.

  • Peace House is dedicated to ending family violence and abuse through education, outreach, support services, and safe housing.

  • Originally founded in 1984 as The Center for Women and Children in Crisis, The Refuge Utah has been in continuous operation for 33 years. Our mission is to provide a caring, advocating, safe, and educationally based environment for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.

  • Safe Harbor, a non-profit organization, provides shelter, supportive services and advocacy to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault, as well as education, awareness and resources to our community.

  • Established in 1990, Seekhaven assists survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault rebuild their lives. Serving Grand County and Southeastern Utah, Seekhaven provides a wide range of essential services including client advocacy, emergency shelter, and transition assistance.

  • South Valley Services is a domestic violence service provider in West Jordan, Utah. We provide safe shelter and supportive services to women, men and their children who have been impacted by domestic violence.

  • Timpanogos Legal Center provides free legal advice and legal document preparation for victims of domestic violence and low-income persons.

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  • Our Mission: To help families of homicide victims receive hope, justice, and healing.

  • Utah Legal Services (ULS) is a nonprofit law office incorporated in 1976 committed to making equal justice a reality by providing free legal help in non-criminal cases to low-income Utahns.

  • Cycling club dedicated to ending child abuse.

  • YCC Family Crisis Center is a domestic violence shelter and rape crisis center provide services 24/7 to victims and their children.

  • Today, the YWCA is Utah’s most comprehensive provider of family violence services; our programs include walk-in services and a crisis line, emergency shelter, transitional housing, children’s programs, and a vast array of supportive services.

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